Effort vs Allowing – a practical example by Jamil

By Jamil Haidari September 10th, 2015

Several days ago when I was washing my dishes I realized that the practice of washing dishes is very similar and a great analogy for how we live our lives.

After cooking a meal on the stove I noticed that I had food stuck to the bottom of my pot and washing my dishes would become more challenging.  I am the type of person that likes things done as soon as possible, and thus not the most patient person.   Seeing that the burnt food  on the bottom of my pot was not that bad I began scrubbing my pots with a scratch pad. As you well know this took much effort, hot water and soap.    After finishing with the dishes it dawned on me.  My relationship with my dishes is exactly how I tend to deal with challenges in life; creating EFFORT to minimize time.  This was a moment of realization for me.  I could have easily just filed up the pots with some hot water and a little bit of soap and waited some time.  Allowing time and the elements to interact and do their job would result in the food particles naturally loosening and a much easier time washing the dishes.   All that was required was patience on my part.   Not to say that I never take this approach, but the fact that I didn’t only highlights my tendencies in life to make things hard in order to save time.

In my first example, their was a lot more effort and very little allowing.  While in the latter example their was a more balance approach.  I still had to give effort for the food particles to come off.  Pouring the water in pot, adding soap, and the very little scrubbing that I would need to do would constitute the effort.  The allowing part is used as a substitute, kind of like planting a seed. It creates a co-creation with the universe in which both take turn to their part.   It creates what could be described as a MAGICAL moment.  Kind of like making a wish and holding the intention.

I realized at the moment that their was more to the action of washing dishes then just the action of washing dishes. I was establishing a pace for my life of balance and was working in tandem with life and not against it.

My question to you is what is your relationship to your tasks, challenges and chores.   Is there a balanced approach.  Do you trust in the Universe to do its part when you do yours?  Or are you trying to do it all yourself??